DEAR DEIDRE: SINCE my spouse was identified with early-onset dementia our three grandchildren haven’t seen her.
She is simply 58 and was identified final yr. She has deteriorated in a short time.
She used to take care of our grandchildren often and I do know they’re lacking her however I’ve delayed a go to as I don’t need to upset them.
She used to take such care over her look, however except I brush her hair and costume her, she wouldn’t dress for the day.
Our grandchildren are aged 9, seven and 5.
My spouse retains asking for them, regardless that she is getting muddled with their names.
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DEIDRE SAYS: I’m so sorry.
Dementia is likely one of the cruellest illnesses as a result of the particular person you fell in love with is not actually there, however they nonetheless want loads of demanding care.
After all seeing a much-loved grandparent change so quickly could be complicated with out a clear rationalization and loads of reassurance of the youngsters.
Ideally, you and your spouse would clarify why she could also be behaving otherwise.
If that isn’t potential maybe their dad and mom might speak to them.
Usually kids are relieved to know an individual’s behaviour change is a part of their dementia.
Alzheimer’s Society has extra sources on speaking to kids about dementia (see alzheimers.org.uk or name 0333 150 3456).